Data studies and research reviews from Provider Dating Reality Check. Every page shows its methodology and primary sources. Charts are free to republish with the attribution link provided on each page.
We reanalyzed Stanford’s How Couples Meet and Stay Together survey: among 839 women whose partner out-earns them, friends (30%), school (21%), and work (19%) lead — and dating apps hit 19% for couples formed in the 2010s.
The 49 largest U.S. metros ranked by Census + IRS data — unmarried-male surplus at 25–44, $100k+ male earners, and $200k+ tax returns. 47 of 49 metros have more unmarried men than women. San Jose leads on all three indicators.
What 4,038 real dating experiences reveal about red flags in the first 3 months — boundary violations are #1 (36%), 47% of timed flags surface in month 1, and the hindsight gap triples with age.
What 3,653 real relationship experiences reveal about the red flags people actually talk about — lying is #1 (16%), control rises to #1 in committed relationships, and 72% of severity-classified flags are safety-level threats.
What 3,026 real dating opinions reveal about money, fairness, and attraction — cross-tabulated by income, age, and gender. 82% reject rigid 50/50 when incomes differ. Women mention household labor 6.3× more than men.
What peer-reviewed hazard models and surveys of ~8,000 couples show about dating duration, engagement timing, cohabitation order, and divorce risk. Three republishable charts.
More studies in progress.